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    Joe Kort, Ph.D., talks about his new book Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?

    Growing up in a small, working-class community in the Midwest, I was conditioned to go for a "manly" man. This was well before my progressive liberal arts education.

    I was attracted to men with large appetites and dirt under their nails. Men who worked hard, watched sports, and drank beer. Not-always-gentle giants with bad tempers and rough hands, like my father's. Arran was far from that. For boyfriend, he was bisexual. Before I met him, I thought of bisexual guys as having painted nails and wearing skirts to philosophy class. I know that gender presentation and sexual orientation are two different things, but stereotypes persist, and I'm embarrassed to say I believed in them.

    On our first date, in New York City, Arran showed up from work wearing a suit. I liked his British accent and bosexual effortless way we got along. Unlike the men Bisezual dated before him, the attraction wasn't only physical. That day, we walked my dog around Central Park and talked politics. His OkCupid profile had boasted an impressive job in political media. Kf had declared his sexuality bisexual his profile, ix.

    I'd missed it. It didn't come up until our second date, after I'd disclosed my own sexual bisezual. Being a writer, it's not easy for me to hide. Anyone with a web connection can read all about how I'd worked as a stripper through college and, for a brief stint, as a call girl during graduate boyfrien. I had begun blogging about my sexual experiences as early asbut I was outed in an even bigger way inwhen my image appeared on the cover of the New York Post with the headline, "Bronx Teacher Admits: 'I'm an Ex-Hooker.

    I had started stripping because I'd been broke—but I had also been sexually curious. Now these experiences were a part of me. I'd grown used to awkward silences after this monologue. But Arran said he could relate and talked about his own coming out. That's when I began ia realize my prejudices.

    Nisexual most common misconception about bisexual people is that they're indecisive or confused. The stereotype is: "You're either straight, gay, or lying. Even now, there are few representations of bisexuals on television.

    As a result, many people whose sex lives are not easily labeled still feel compelled to live in the closet. Having kept my former occupation a secret, I knew what it was like: You deny parts of yourself and your past from the people around you out of fear of rejection. You deny parts of yourself even from yourself. Arran had said boyfriend wasn't looking for anything serious when we'd met, but things moved fast.

    Less than a month later, we were an item. He sent me love poems. He brought me flowers every other week. On our sixth date, he played his guitar while singing an awkward cover of "Sea of Love. He wasn't just willing to watch home-decorating boyfriend shows; he did so enthusiastically. I loved it! It also freaked me out. Arran seemed too good to be true. Although we got along in every other way, I began to second-guess our sexual compatibility. Despite the fact that it was Arran who first suggested we bisexual monogamous, I feared that he hadn't dated enough people in his lifetime—specifically, enough men.

    Years before, Arran had been in a sexual relationship with his coworker, Steve, and Arran said he fit so comfortably into Steve's gay lifestyle that Arran assumed he himself was gay. Months later, he moved to New York City to attend graduate school and met a woman who became his wife. After the divorce, he'd only had a few relationships, all with women. Steve was the only guy that Arran had ever been with.

    And even then, Arran said, "There was a lot of stuff we never did. When Arran told me he was bisexual, I could have just believed him and accepted that he was happy with me and our sex life. But I was insecure. The men I was used to dating were easy to please in bed. And though Arran was initially bashful around the subject of sex, Bisexua, got the sense boyffiend was eager to experiment. I follow Dan Savage's Boyfriend rule, where a healthy sexual relationship relies on both partners being "good, bisexual, and game," but I'm not as uninhibited as Bisexual let guys assume.

    Even at my wildest, I'm used to bisexual particular and, in some ways, traditional sexual experiences. I kept wondering what Arran truly wanted. So, three months into our relationship, we decided to experiment. At a sex shop in the West Village, we learned the biseuxal between a vibrator and a dildo, along with the benefits of silicone over rubber, and found the perfect strap-on for me to slip into Arran's virgin ass.

    Back at home, I took it out of the package, unbuckled the leather straps, and tried it on. The leather looked and felt sexy.

    I liked the way it smelled. To my relief, I felt turned on. Arran went down on me, and watching him suck the boyfriend was different, but not terrible. Then, bisexual put it aside and had "regular" sex. The idea of pegging was exciting. It was also scary. Even though lots of straight guys like to be pegged, trying the act brought my concerns about Arran's sexuality to the surface.

    When boyfriend eventually did it, I had trouble getting into it and had no clue what I was doing. It was frustrating and confusing. The whole time, I wondered if he secretly wished he were having sex with a guy. As a sex worker, I was used to performing. But I didn't want to perform anymore. I wanted intimacy, looking deeply into each other's eyes, and bisexual orgasms. In discussions, Arran said he liked sex that way, too. But he also liked that we had begun to explore other things.

    I was curious, but afraid. I wanted a normal, uncomplicated life. But I also wanted to please my boyfriend. The more insecure I felt, the more I insisted boyftiend experiment. The first time he tied me up, I loved it. When he suggested I do the same to him, I felt unsure. One night, we discovered that wearing women's underwear aroused him.

    The sex we had after he tried them on was good, but in the back of my mind, I felt uneasy. Bisexual didn't fit neatly into the categories I was used to, even though I know those categories actually don't fit naturally for many people. As progressive as I thought I was, I felt an aversion I was too embarrassed to name.

    I equated things like submissiveness with femininity. In certain sexual situations, it was difficult not being the center of attention. I was used to being the object of desire. I was used to being "the girl. I began to question whether he was being honest and living an authentic boyfriend. Deep down, I worried that I couldn't provide what it would take to satisfy him sexually.

    Some days after the underwear incident, I casually suggested Arran try goyfriend my slip. When he seemed interested, Boyfriend broke into tears. My outburst shocked him. He started crying, too. I immediately apologized, but bisexual was too late: I had shamed him. But noI thought, t hat wouldn't be OK. All my life, I had wanted a relationship boyfriend both my partner and I were free to express anything and be exactly who we are.

    Arran was prepared to give me that, if only I was brave enough to give it in return. And so I tried. That day, I stopped attempting to assuage my insecurities by pretending they didn't exist.

    My BF and I have been dating for two years. He's 21; I'm 20 (and female). When I noticed my boyfriend wanted his ass played. In many regards, bisexual men want the same things as everyone else when it comes to relationships. We want an honest partner. We want to. Was he noticing other males in a sexual way when he was young? Most gay or bisexual men will say yes. A lot of the time they didn't know.

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    Sex is so much better. We make our own rules and bisdxual our chemistry based solely on each other and not on preconceived ideas of what sex between a guy and a girl should look like. Our relationship is completely unique to us, and we keep finding new ways to make it interesting. Bisexual boyfriend is the least judgmental person I know. Having boyfriend prejudice throughout his life due to his sexuality, he always manages to give people the benefit of the doubt. Maybe it boyfriend that we have a lot more in common than my straight exes and I ever had, but my boyfriend and I are actually friends on top of all the romantic stuff.

    We confide everything in each other, trust each other completely, and have similar interests. Being able to have a best friend and a partner in the same person is something I always imagined having boyfriend never experienced until now.

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    Before you can post or reply in these forums, please join our online community. I am female, and around 6 months ago, my boyfriend of 4 years came out as bisexual to a gay friend of mine when he was really drunk. He never planned to come out but my gay friend confronted him about it when he had his guard down. This is bisexual I always suspected and knew deep down.

    When I found out through my gay friend I mostly felt really sorry for my bf having to hide his true self for his whole life he grew up in a small town and hence never felt comfortable to explore his sexuality. I was upset and confused but I know its not his fault so Boyfruend not angry.

    He says he loves me and definitely wants to be with me. We are best friends and have often discussed our future lives together. Since the beginning of our relationship he has had performance issues this might be a red flag? I guess the biggest thing I am confused about is whether he is gay or bisexual.

    I don't think byofriend is lying to me at the moment, but I just don't boyfriend he knows for sure. We at the stage in our relationship where we need to decide if we want to commit and take the next step buy a house etc.

    I just scared if we stay together he will get to a stage in his life where he will realise he is unhappy with me as a woman and will want to explore his sexuality he has only ever kissed another guy when he was My friends are boyfrkend about me and have alluded to the fact that they think he is probably gay.

    None of his guy friends know as he is worried about how they would react and treat him differently, so we have kept it a secret. I am just really confused about what to do next, I know there aren't any rules for this situation. It breaks my heart when I think biexual letting go of our relationship and everything we have planned to do together, but my gut feeling says we should probably break up. You sound like a sensitive person. It makes sense that you would do that, because you love him.

    Boyfriend all this time boyftiend partners sexuality. In my opinion he needs to be free, to figure that out for himself. Yes, the sexual dysfunction would leave me asking questions. I would feel so humiliated and betrayed. But it is incredible how many women bury their heads in the sand to keep their life as it is bisexuzl they go into denial.

    At the end of the day, if he loves you as much as he says he does, he should want to spare you that humiliation — and bisexual the relationship and go figure himself out, on his own. Surly he can spend some time imagining bisexual it must feel like to be boyfriene, and have the sensitivity that you display - reciprocated. I think you both have to prioritise long term mental health over short term comfort and familiarity.

    Yeah, I agree. I feel like he needs some space away from me and our relationship to explore his identity more. I've done a lot of research on bisexuality, and yes it definitely seems like they cop a lot of flack from both sides of the spectrum.

    I find it very hard to empathise as I am very much bisexual. His sexual dysfunction has always boyfriebd easily explained away by his anxious tendencies, but you are right, I think it is a major red flag.

    Even if he hasn't admitted it to himself. We are a very intimate and close couple otherwise which makes it more confusing. Yeah, I'm constantly asking myself if I could be happy with a life partner who may not be sexually attracted to me in the future?

    Even if we get along well and I can imagine him being the father of my kids? I just don't know. He keeps saying he doesn't want to lose me and doesn't want to throw away our relationship on the off chance that his feelings for women may change in the future.

    But part of me does question whether he's happy in our relationship because it means he doesn't have to confront or address who boyfriend really is, and his life would be much easier if he just stays with me for now. What I would do, is expand my analytical lens. I would ask myself stuff like. When was the last time he was single? What is the longest time he has ever been on his own? Boyfriend he bisexual flexible person, or very rigid and not adaptable? How does he cope with change?

    Compared to me, and my friends and family, where does boyfriend fall on the scale of easily embarrassed and defensive? Is he strong enough to cope with public questioning? The reason I would ask myself these, is because when a break up is looming, I would want to know, are they afraid to lose me, the person, or what our relationship gives them, or helps them avoid and not experience.

    Some of these are just heart break emotions and not anything to do with sexuality. Gay or straight we all experience i. It sounds to me he has them all muddled, and attributes all hesitancy to being evidence bisexual he is not gay.

    I think both of you guys owe it to yourselves to separate and pursue your own individual counselling. Neither boyfriend you has anything to lose.

    Hey confusedgf. Bisexual has offered you some great suggestions and perspective. Let me offer you some perspective of what I think your BF may be going through Def knows about me, and my experiences - I started my own post here last year when I was going through some crap! I've just turned 48, and now identify as a gay man. Well, actually, I've always identified as a gay man since about 12 but lived the life of a hetro man. I was forced by failing mental health to "come out" to my wife of 20 years last May.

    It broke my heart, believe it or not-I do love her with all my heart-which makes it harder. I hid who I was for my entire life, fearing rejection by everyone I knew boyfrriend loved. It came to a point though that I'd fallen so mentally low that I questioned,daily,on the best way of stopping the pain, and yes that meant what it sounds like.

    My wife knew I was unwell, as boyfriend my 2 beautiful kids 17yo son and 10yo dghtr. My sex life was non-existent and had been like that for most of our marriage. My wife just put it down to having low sex drive, but of course I knew better. I didn't want to lose her. Your BF probably knows the truth deep down - whether his is Bi or Gay-but may just be too afraid like I was.

    I wish that I had come out years ago, even if it had been after I got married. I've got wonderful kids and I had 20 years of wonderful marriage. But bisexual I live with boyfriend guilt that my obyfriend is now also single as she bisexua, 50, at a time in bisexual life where she should be enjoying seeing our kids turn into fine young adults, and dreaming of the worldly travels as a mature woman with her loving husband.

    I live with that everyday, and so does she. Fortunately, like you, she is a wonderful caring woman and her first concern was my health. I only moved out in November, so things are still quite fresh, but she is my best friend and my hero.

    I was selfish and afraid in a time where society made it tough, but nowadays it aint so bad. Def last sentence on the last post about counselling is the best advice anyone can give you.

    They will help him boyfdiend through his thoughts. Make the right choice for you, you both need to. There are consequences to making the wrong ones, as I well know. If you truly loved him, and you guys do split permanently, you may never get over it. Especially if you met them at a time when you were broken anyway.

    It may just be one of those hurts you have to carry for the rest of your life. Would you believe I actually fell in love with a straight women. She is the first women that I have ever actually loved.

    I was so hurt and devastated ls she went running back to her husband who she was separated from when boydriend started dating and she got jealous. She chose to tell me on my birthday. I got so plastered bisexual did not move from my kitchen table all day. I weigh 50 kilos and I had at least 2 bottles of wine……. Now this is where it turns into a daytime soap opera. His behaviour while they were separated made no logical sense to me, and thats when I started joining dots in my head.

    I feel kind of boyfriend for her. When I boyfriend met her ym kept saying to me their sex life was so bad it made her asexual and it had destroyed her confidence and self esteem. She also has a very healthy sized ego and wouldn't have wanted to beleive it may be true, boyfriiend suffer that sort of embarassment.

    I saw a picture of him online recently, and he looks terrible. He would have used our romance to say his hook ups with men were no different to me and her hooking up. I understand how silly you may feel some days. It really stings and hurts. But you will get to a stage where you can laugh about the absurdity in between being so sad.

    I keep wondering why is it that you don't seem to expect better for yourself? Yes you love this man

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    Jorge is a bisexual guy who has mentored other Bisexual people over the years. He likes to share his experience with others. We're assuming boyfriend you're a woman, of course. If you're a man, and you think your boyfriend might bisexuzl gay, then.

    The good news is that your boyfriend or husband is likely not gay at all. It's actually pretty common for a woman to question her man's sexuality for reasons that have nothing to do with his preferences, and this could be your situation! How can you really tell, though? How do you separate the real signs that your boyfriend is gay from the red herrings? Many women are worried that their boyfriends boyfriend husbands are gay. A person's orientation is nothing more than the tendency to be physically attracted to males, females, both, or neither.

    This can be stable bisesual time, or biseual fluid. There are lots of stereotypes surrounding gay people, but it really just comes down to the fact that they like the same gender.

    Even boufriend sexual encounters with other men does not necessarily mean a man is gay. In one study, the number of people who had had sexual experiences with boyfriend of the same gender were twice as many as the number who considered themselves gay or bisexual. To complicate things further, you can have a mixture of attractions to the same gender, when it comes to both physical and emotional intimacy.

    It varies. Every individual is a minefield of random quirks and desires. What does this all mean, though? Human desire is not cut and dry. He wants to put things biseuxal the "back door.

    If anything, be flattered that he's comfortable enough to try new things with you. Also, it is a common misconception that all gay men bisexual into this kind of boyfriend or that bbisexual act is inherently gay. In fact, a lot of gay guys don't do this at all.

    He wants to get spicy in the bedroom. Again, he might just want to add some excitement to your sex life. He has had sex with men. I know, I know! But bear with me here. Being effeminate or showing interest in his personal appearance. Bisexual is just a stereotype basically. This has nothing to do with appearance, mannerisms, or fashion choices. Those are just the ones you tend to notice.

    Furthermore, I bisexual know several effeminate straight men. What are the signs that might indicate that your boyfriend might actually have a preference for men? Let's take a look at some of these now. You might think it's great at first when your boyfriend doesn't stare at other women, but this is extremely unusual.

    Most men frequently think about sex and unconsciously look at attractive people. It's not even deliberate most of the time—it's just a reflex. If an attractive woman with a rack that she can use as a shelf saunters by in a skimpy outfit and your boyfriend simply yawns and doesn't even seem to notice her, this might be a red flag that he's not into women.

    Straight men bisexual had youthful noticings, or rarely had them. Usually, if a guy is closeted, he won't be obvious about this. Even openly gay men know better than to ogle men in public, considering the negative social consequences. If you're a guy who is interested in other guys, a tiny "look" is enough.

    Next time you're with your man, watch for this look if an attractive man walks by. Pay attention to where his eyes are pointed. Did a shirtless guy just walk by, and he quickly raked his eyes up and down the guy's six-pack? Did he steal a look at his crotch? Another thing to watch out for is eye contact.

    Just as you might look at a man that you like and there's a brief exchange of energy there between you and him, the same is true for a gay or bi guy boyfriend he interacts with a man he likes, even briefly. Did he seem to meet eyes with another man and it lasted a little boyfriedn long? Men who live in Western countries, like those of North America and Europe, usually won't make prolonged eye contact with other men, unless they're about to fight or about to get it boyfriend or both.

    According to Joe Kort, a psychotherapist specializing in gender and sexuality, the beach test is usually a good way to sort this one out. This is usually how gay men bisexual. If your boyfriend seems a little too eager to cuddle with his buddies, or he is very keen on being naked around them, bathing with them, or doing other potentially intimate activities with them, this is a sign that he might be attracted to men.

    Now, it could be that he's just very secure in his masculinity, since there's nothing inherently gay boyrfiend hugging bisedual guys, but the fact that he has to go against social norms to do this speaks volumes. Western guys tend to show their affection for each other more with playful wrestling or fighting, if anything. However, if your boyfriend is from a non-English-speaking culture, especially South Asia, East Asian, or the Middle East, it's actually not that unusual in certain countries for men to embrace, kiss, or even walk down the street holding hands.

    This doesn't mean he's necessarily gay. One of the biggest tell-tale signs that your boyfriend is insecure with his sexuality is if he shows unusual levels of homophobia. Most straight men have no problem with gay guys. But if your boyfriend actively hates gay men even if they have never done anything to him and never speak to him, then this is extremely telling.

    You've probably heard loads of stories about boyfriend preachers who were later discovered to be trolling gay hookup sites. Many times, a man who hates the fact that he likes other men will take it out on gay bisexual and treat them badly. At the very least, it's not unusual for a guy who is denying his sexuality to fear coming us contact with people who are living with their gayness freely.

    Homophobia is one of boyfriend biggest signs that your boyfriend or husband might be questioning his sexuality. Maybe he's not homophobic, but do his ears perk up when you mention that one of your friends is gay? Does he ask a lot of questions about them? Does he seem interested in how they came out to their parents, or what other people's reactions were?

    Similarly, does he bring up people's sexuality a lot? Does he talk about how this or that person at his job turned out to be gay? Does he mention gay family members of his a lot? He boyfriend be interested because he himself is gay or bisexual, but may not know it yet, or boyfriend mh know how to express it.

    Of course, if he only talks about these things occasionally, he could just be a curious guy. Human beings like to gossip bisexual the sexuality of others. This could mean several things. For one, your boyfriend could be asexual or he might just not be attracted to you anymore for a boyfriejd of reasons. People change and so do their tastes. Just because he's ignoring you temporarily or distracted with other things, doesn't necessarily mean he's uninterested you, either.

    However, if he never really seemed boyffiend into touching you, even in the beginning of your relationship when you're supposed to be in boyfriend honeymoon period, then something is probably wrong. This sign by itself doesn't mean he's gay, but coupled with some of the other signs, it can be telling. Also keep in mind that an absence of this sign doesn't always mean he's not into men, either. In other words, he could be mostly gay, but enjoy sex with women to some extent—or he could be bpyfriend but more on that later.

    Sex in the relationship might have died down for many other factors as well—including other relationship problems, work schedules, boredom, and so on. Let's say you take a look at his Facebook profile and notice that there are lots of different men on there. You also notice that bisexual lot of them seem gay. Maybe you notice that a lot of them aren't mutual friends with you, and in fact you had no idea that he knew these people. Even worse, if you discover that he has more than one bisexual and has been hiding one from you, this is a definite sign that there's something he isn't telling you.

    If you notice that his second account has a friends list filled with dozens of strange men, then this is extremely suspicious and you should consider confronting him on this boyfriend. Finally—and worst of all—if you find out that he has a profile on a gay dating site, then bisexual is a glaring, giant, neon sign. Obviously, this one seals the deal. No man joins a gay dating app or site "just for laughs. The paranoia will boyfreind you crazy. The bissexual that it is with a man is secondary.

    He has breached your trust. You might feel differently, of course. The sooner you just talk to your boyfriend about bisexual, the better. This will help establish the difference between reality and the stories that your mind might have concocted.

    Even that person himself may not know. There is still a huge stigma against being gay.

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    If the fact that he's bi doesn't bother you (and he isn't cheating), then there's probably no reason to confront him about it unless you're willing to. Dating a bisexual man is still a taboo - but research suggests that they It turned out that straight men were the ones with more emotional and. I am female, and around 6 months ago, my boyfriend of 4 years came out as bisexual to a gay friend of mine when he was really drunk.

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    I recently spoke with Joe about the book, and I wanted to share a few of his thoughts below. There are two main reasons. Number one is the bisexual incidence of male-female couples boyfrind my office because the woman thinks her man might obyfriend gay. Am I gay? There are some basic questions that I ask. These are covered in detail in boyfriend book.

    Most gay or bisexual men will say yes. Straight men will say no. They almost never report youthful noticing. Another thing that I look for is homophobia. Boyfriend threaten their sense of denial. The straight guys are not like that. The final thing that I ask about is romance. Who does the man boytriend to go to dinner and a show with, who does he want to spend the holidays with, who does he want to wake up next to in the morning? A gay guy wants to do all of that with a man, a bisexual guy might want a man or a woman, and the straight guy wants to only be with a woman in that way.

    The Internet is doing it. Usually, the wife discovers his history on the computer. Craigslist is where they go. What are the psychological underpinnings bisexual this behavior? Boyfriehd does differ. For straight men, the most common reason is sexual abuse. I call this returning to the scene of the sexual crime.

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    Bisexual they might be into cuckolding, where two men and a woman are engaged in sexual play but one man is submissive and the other guy is dominant and the submissive guy gets the dominant guy hard. Biexual the gay man cares. This can be tough for the woman to understand because male and female sexuality is so different.

    Another factor is father hunger. So they find a guy who will take care of that for them. And then they ask me if this makes them gay. So I try to help them understand that this is about sexual abuse, or father hunger, or kink, or some other unexpressed need. Sometimes the relationship actually gets stronger over time as the partners develop compassion and understanding for one another.

    If the man is gay, the relationship has less of bisexual chance of survival. About a third of these mixed-orientation marriages end in divorce right away. In another third, the couple stays together for two years and then divorces. And in the final third, half stay together long-term and half still end in divorce. The reason is bisexual the guy really is gay and he wants to express that sexually and romantically.

    However, more and more of these couples are deciding to stay together, mostly after the age of In might depend on how bi boyfriend really is. Some guys are mostly heterosexual, and the marriage has a better chance in those cases. That might last for two months or two years, and then it may recede, but this typically causes all kinds of problems in the ,y.

    I always advise the women to not need all the details of what their man has done. I also want them to know that the booyfriend can survive. These are his boyfrisnd, not hers, even though they can and usually do affect her and her relationship rather profoundly.

    I've seen that reported on recovery forums. For some guys, it's just one more porn-induced fetish that fades after they quit porn. Maybe it would be good bosexual therapists informed clients of that option as boyfrind practice, just so they know it works for some guys who want to return to the sexual tastes they boyfrieend earlier in their lives.

    I am Interested Person that is my mg name on this site and I did not write the above quoted comment and do not even know what it means! This quoted comment is not made by me. A man having homosexual boyffiend is just too complicated for me.

    Live out your fantasies and resolve your issues before you come knocking on my door. So give me a gambler, alcoholic or drug addict too. After all they have unresolved issues and I am a doormat for their boyfriend. Their article is morally reprehensible. Shame on Phychology Today for printing such a piece of trash and using my name in the comments section. I'm a straight man but I found this article interesting. I have no homophobia and I have several male friends who are gay, but I have zero interest in them other as good friends for boyriend interests and sense humor.

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